What is a Friend?

This past week my therapist asked me this question, and I've spent this entire week thinking about it. I realized that I really don't know. My best friend I haven't talked to in months because she's as crazy as I am, or more (love you amy!) and it's exhausting. I have other friends I'm close with but I came to realize this week that I put in to my friendships more than I get back. Now, part of this may be because of my codependency, but I think part of it is that I stay friends with people no matter what, even if they may not want to be a friend to me anymore. I realize how unhealthy this is so I'm trying to change it. My second assignment from my therapist was:

My friend "want ad" (applies to me and another person):

WANTED! a friend who is emotionally stable and has good boundaries. Someone who isn't showy or tries to make people feel inferior. A friend who understands the importance of being their authentic self. A friend who gives and takes equally, and who genuinely cares about the other person's life without being pushy with opinions. A friend who likes playdates with and without the kids, who enjoys dinner parties but also likes to go out and have a good time. Most of all a friend who talks and listens.

I think I did a pretty good job on that one! I've been feeling healthier than I have in a very long time. Therapy is a whole lot of hard work but totally worth it.